'Too stubborn to stop': 老司机直播's Elspeth Arbow graduates after overcoming second double-lung transplant
Elspeth Arbow was greeted with loud audience cheers and an outpouring of emotion from her college principal when she crossed the stage at Convocation Hall this week to accept her Honours Bachelor of Arts degree.
Arbow, who took cinema studies and was diagnosed with cystic fibrosis as a baby, says there were times she feared she would never graduate. At one point, her health was so poor that she needed a double-lung transplant 鈥 the second time she would undergo the procedure in her young life. The first took place when she was just 13 years old.
鈥淚t鈥檚 this huge sense of accomplishment because I wanted to give up all the time,鈥 says Arbow, who was joined at the ceremony by her mother, Judith, who flew in from Saint John, N.B. for the occasion.
As things took a turn for the worse during her studies, Arbow says taking care of her health became a 鈥渇ull-time job.鈥 Cystic fibrosis is a multi-organ genetic disease that affects the lungs and often the digestive system. It affects an estimated one in every 3,600 children born in Canada. There is no cure.
Though some in her shoes might have dropped out, Arbow says she was 鈥渢oo stubborn to stop.鈥
She spent nine months on the organ donation waiting list while carrying the weight of assignments, exams and an oxygen tank. She received a new pair of lungs in March 2018 and celebrated her 22nd birthday in hospital.
Just over a year since her transplant, Arbow has finished her courses, spent three months in Europe 鈥 including a one-week solo trip to London 鈥 and landed a coveted internship with the Toronto International Film Festival. She now has white-blonde hair and Band-Aids on her ankles that cover scrapes she got skateboarding. She鈥檚 also fostered two cats, Josephine and Lady.
Elspeth and her mom Judith at convocation (photo by Lisa Lightbourn)
Even for Arbow, known for her sarcasm and dry wit, convocation was emotional. 鈥淚t took me six years because there were huge obstacles in the way,鈥 she tells 老司机直播 News after her ceremony.
鈥淲e all worked hard鈥 This whole chapter of my life is over now. I鈥檓 finished school, I鈥檓 working now, I鈥檓 healthy, I鈥檓 travelling. I鈥檓 discovering this new person that I am, where I have the ability and the opportunity to kind of鈥 鈥 she pauses, searching for the right words 鈥 鈥渂e me.鈥
Arbow鈥檚 mother cried during the ceremony and gave her daughter a bouquet of roses, which came with a small sticker saying 鈥渇reedom.鈥
Arbow credits Innis College Principal Charlie Keil and Registrar Donald Boere 鈥 her 鈥渂iggest cheerleaders鈥 鈥 for helping her through hard times. Boere responded to Arbow's late-night emails asking for help and obtained lecture notes for classes she missed. Responding to 老司机直播 News by email, Boere said: 鈥淎s far as Elspeth's future, I'd just say this: Elspeth can get on a plane again. Look out world!鈥
Arbow celebrated the bittersweet end to her bachelor's studies with cake (photo courtesy of Elspeth Arbow)
After the convocation ceremony, Keil gave Arbow an Innis award recognizing her contributions to college governance. Arbow was a student representative on council and in committees, including one in which she advocated for people with disabilities.
鈥淓lspeth knows me, and I know her,鈥 Keil says, adding that sharing the stage with her at convocation was 鈥渟pecial for both of us.鈥 At one point, he briefly lifted her five-foot-one frame off the floor.
鈥淎ny number of these adjectives one wants to enlist (to describe her): indomitable, determined, spirited. I mean, those are all qualities that will serve her well no matter what she ends up doing,鈥 Keil says.
To current and future students who run into obstacles, Arbow says don鈥檛 be afraid to ask for help and go at your own pace.
鈥淭ake your time,鈥 she says. 鈥淭he only rush is when you think you have to meet a four-year standard or whatever ... It doesn鈥檛 matter as long as you get it done. If that takes you four years, great. If it takes six years, cool. If it takes you 10 years 鈥 it鈥檚 all the more powerful when you do finish.鈥